Before I fall
We’re into week 11 and my lovely wife continues to feel the full effects of pregnancy and the changes taking place right now.
She’s an amazing lady, and despite everything is continuing to be a great friend, daughter, sister and wife to all of us.
I still feel pretty useless and so am making up for this by trying to single-handedly do every task that needs doing. The downside is that this is making my unwell wife feel like she’s not doing enough so now every task is either met with supervision called from the sofa or rather stern critique afterwards.
If I’m honest, I think we’re both suffering from pride.
I feel useless to calm the sickness or make it all better, and so my pride kicks into doing useless tasks that make me feel useful.
My wife feels useless because she’s exhausted or unwell and so her pride kicks in and I get micro-managed or harshly reviewed.
Having a baby is obviously a massive change for any parent or couple. But the reality is that in the midst of the chaos, the newness, the excitement, the nappies, the visitors, the gadgets and the rest…that beautiful new mother is still going to be that beautiful same woman who, for some odd reason, decided to become my beautiful wife.
Of that I can be proud, the other pride I’ll chuck in the bin…hopefully the right one.